Category: Life

“Oh! You are just like my daughter” said her mother in law and she took her words on face value…

“Oh! You can be yourself and you can go anywhere you want to, you can wear what you want to” said her mother in law and she believed her…

Oh! You have all the rights for decision making as it’s your house said her mother in law and she was happy like never before…

And she lived unhappily ever after being like a daughter and not the daughter, asking for permission even to go her room for taking rest and obeying the decisions of in laws in “her own house” #indiandaughterinlaw


Life’s ways to teach…

“Hum tere bina ab rah nahi sakte, tere bina kya wazood mera….
kyuki tum hi ho, ab tum hi ho, zindagi ab tum hi ho….”
It’s been four months since I got married and I feel this way!!!
But the wait to be together just don’t end… I hate this… In fact the people who know me also know that I hate waiting for anything…
There are times when one doesn’t has control on life’s events. So, better stay calm and take the life as it comes.
And I am a great believer of whatever happens, happens for good.
So, let me enjoy what life is handing over to me and while life teaches me meaning of further such quotes I will dance to the tune of my favourite music… Come lets dance together folks!!!


Apno se kuch upar uthkar, itna na kar gumaan ae nadaan!
ladkhadayenge kadam ek din to janega ki,
koi wazood hi nahi tera duniya me apno k bina!!

I have started realizing now that my mind is as stubborn as me…. in fact more stubborn than me I think…

The more I try to convince myself that this is the way of life and I have to adapt to it as early as possible, have to learn to be happy with how it is now because I don’t have control on the events of life…. I try to convince my mind that it is not possible to have everything it thinks and wishes for… but all goes in vain… in turn my mind keeps convincing me that things will change soon, I will get all what I wish for and I will again be surrounded by happiness and fun. My mind ultimately doesn’t let me compromise and accept what is and make me strive for what it wants me to have….

What do you people think who is right?? me or mind??

What is the right way of life – to make peace with the present however it may not be exactly how you would like it to be but not that bad at the same time or to keep dreaming about how you would like it to be while going about your daily life and suffer restlessness of mind??

Right now my mind is very adamant on its point and I am still trying to win it over with no success at all…. and you know the height is that my mind keeps telling me to believe that thoughts become things… haaaa…. I can only say here that “Man lafanga bada, apne man ki kare….”

Optimistic me…

It’s been a long time since I wrote last. I really missed writing and reading during last one month but somehow wasn’t getting time for these hobbies because of being busy in shifting, joining new job and getting adjusted here. These days I have so much to do that some days I really wish for a day of more than 24 hours!!! Life has changed completely. I am far from family, friends and fun, starting a totally new inning with a conviction of reaching new heights in my career and confident of the way I have chosen for myself.

ImageThough I still sometimes wish to go back to earlier routine and easy life but at the same time I am loving the challenges lying ahead – challenge of excelling in my new job role, challenge of being comfortable at this new place, challenge of living up to people’s expectations from me, challenge of leading a team of reportees, challenge of handling operations of a branch single handed. And the challenge of taking time out for myself, my hobbies and my well being.

My funda is simple here – “Think positive and be optimistic

And one thing which makes me positive and confident about my chosen way is my belief that “Whatever happens happens for a reason

That’s it for this time guys… Will try to write more frequently now and will keep sharing the noise of my mind here 😉

Value of some things which we take for granted is realized only when we are about to lose them or in some cases it happens only after we actually lose them.

I am feeling the same these days when I am about to leave behind all the good times, all the fun and cheerful times I have had with my friends here. Suddenly, time taken out to have a coffee together with a close group of friends (be it only 15 minutes) has started to seem like the best thing to do. Lunch in the canteen which used to be a chore has now become something which I look forward to. And many such small things which used to go unnoticed earlier have now become too important to miss.

I feel like gathering as much memories and have as much fun as I can in these last days. It is because I know I am going to a new place, new surroundings and where finding such nice friends would not be an easy thing, given the fact that I am not good at initiating conversation and approaching people.

I must admit here that last two years have been some of the best times I have had during my life in the city. I so wish it to go on the same way as it is but law of nature is something which is not in human control – “It is very rightly said that change is the only constant in the world”. So, it is time for me to move on for my own improvement, for my career growth and for the greater enrichment of my personal and professional knowledge. It’s time to go out and meet new people, to make some more friends and to get some new experiences in life.

Would like to sum it up by quoting that no matter how lovely a city is, it is the people around who make it worth living in it and I have been lucky enough to have such nice people around 🙂

Time to move…

It’s time to move… yes, to move cities. It’s not that easy, especially for someone like me. I have this habit of getting used to my surroundings, my life style and my belongings like they are never gonna change. I know change is always a bit hard to adapt to. But I also know that I have always been good with getting adapted to changes, it’s just the thought of leaving everything behind and starting a new life in a new unknown city makes me a bit jittery.

I still remember how I used to be home sick and kept on wishing to be able to go back to home when I first came here 9 and half years ago. Yes, 9 and half years quite a long time it is… No matter how bad and lonely I felt in starting, it has proved to be a right decision for my personal and professional growth. If my mom had not have shown the determination to send me here for my studies, everything would have been different and I am sure I wouldn’t have anything to be proud of or to count as an achievement. I can’t imagine how different and ordinary my life would have been, had this change had not have happened.

This city has given me so much more than I could have ever wished for. Close friends, good job, many experiences – some good, some bad and some I will never forget. It has made me self dependent, self confident and most of all it has made me see the world with a different perspective. The biggest change which had happened almost 10 years back, has been the best decision for shaping my personality and giving my life a kick start in the right direction and I hope another change / move which is going to happen now would also help bring out my best and would make me even better and stronger person.

I just feel that though any big change makes us feel a bit nervous, dubious and reluctant for the time being, yet in the long time it just proves to be a right turn in the journey of life and justifies itself as a good move by giving us either an opportunity to laugh on thinking how nervous we had been in the starting and how good everything has turned up or a learning to be added in our list of experiences to be cautious next time when we take any big decision.

I am hoping everything to turn out positive while keeping my fingers crossed 🙂

Have you ever noticed that you had been so troubled and disturbed by some problem totally consuming you for a long time and uncertainty looming over making it difficult to see what’s ahead but then you forget all the hardships and bad times you have had as soon as you find solution and can see something good happening. The happiness and that one positive moment feels so huge that it feels like it was a total waste of time and energy to have remained consumed by something which has ultimately resulted into something good.

Really, today I experienced it and understood that there’s no point worrying about things…

Sooner or later everything falls into place.

Yesterday got an SMS and it goes like:

“Har baar mukaddar ko dosh dena theek nahi hai, kabhi-2 hum bhi hadd se jyada maang lete hain”

(It’s not right to blame luck all the time, because sometimes we too wish for more than what we deserve)

Hmm… this made me think is it really so??? Do we sometimes wish for more than what we deserve??? But then the question is who can decide what we deserve? I mean how do we know what we deserve and what not? And what’s the point in having limits on our wishes?? I feel that if we will wish for less than we’ll definitely put that much effort only and will get that only and may be less than that in some cases. So, I think we should not limit our wishes, we should wish for more and aim high but yes, at the same time should not get disheartened by failing to achieve all what we had wished for and must keep trying.

I believe it’s right when Simran’s mom says to her (in DDLJ) – “Sapne dekho par unke poore hone ki shart mat rakho”. Keep dreaming but if they don’t come true don’t stop dreaming… keep weaving new dreams, new plans, pursue them with all the determination and ultimately you’ll feel the luck to be on your side. 🙂

So, keep dreaming high guys…!!!

The Pigeon & The Statue

The other day, I stumbled upon an interesting quote while surfing internet.

It was “You have to accept some days you are the pigeon and some days you are the statue”

I thought so true!!!! Whoever said that seems to be someone very good with the words and I would like to assume that has also been through many ups and downs in life but not very sure of this.

Well, what I wanted to say quoting this quote here was that I believe almost everyone amongst us experiences this in our daily life as we go about our personal and professional routine though more so in professional life.

But then, what happens is that we keep crying about the times when we are the statue & get so bogged down by all the troubles created by the pigeons that we forget to celebrate the times when we are the pigeon, without even realizing it!!! We keep sitting brooding over it and forget the fact that we have whole sky before us to fly freely and reach to new highs….

What do you people think about it??? Do you agree with me or have some other opinion about it???